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Dare to Be Brave: How to Develop Shame Resilience, Wk. 2

“The opposite of “never enough”…is what I call Wholeheartedness.”
~Brené Brown~

Whenever we tell ourselves, “I’m never good enough,” “I’m never smart enough,” “I’m never powerful enough,” “I’m never thin enough,” “I’m never enough,” these scripts are a reflection of internalized beliefs shaped by a culture of scarcity. We are all susceptible to being influenced by this culture of scarcity. The cure to ending our allegiance to the scarcity messages rampant in our culture is developing shame resilience.
In her book, Daring Greatly, BrenĂ© Brown quotes a passage from Lynn Twist’s book The Soul of Money in which Twist writes, “We spend most of the hours and days of our lives hearing, explaining, complaining, or worrying about what we don’t have enough of….Before we even sit up in bed, before our feet touch the floor, we’re already inadequate, already behind, already losing, lacking something…. This internal condition of scarcity, this mind-set of scarcity, lives at the very heart of our jealo…

Dare to Be Brave: Practice Radical Self-Love Wk.1

The best and most beautiful things in the world, cannot be seen, or even touched, they must be felt with the heart. ~Helen Keller~
Our desire to feel loved is a primary human need. Love is essential to our emotional health. Most of us don’t think twice about expressing acts of love toward those we care about and love. It’s second nature. Our ability to be empathetic and caring towards others helps to deepen the connection we experience in relationships. Research has found that the level of connection we feel in our relationships play a crucial role in our sense of well-being.
As children, many of us were told by our parents and other adults that it is better to give than to receive. So, many of us internalized this thought as a way of being. As a result, we developed the tendency of spending a lot of time, energy and resources meeting the needs of others while putting our needs on the back burner. When we fail to take care and love ourselves, we fail to relate to ourselves with compassi…