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Dare to Be Brave: Engage Life with Compassion, Connection and Courage Wk.4

What we know and do is important, but who we are is more important.
Brené Brown writes in Daring Greatly, “When we spend our lives waiting until we’re perfect or bulletproof before we walk into the arena, we ultimately sacrifice relationships and opportunities that may not be recoverable, we squander our precious time, and we turn our backs on our gifts, those unique contributions that only we can make.”
The areas in our lives where we feel disconnected, disengaged and struggle for worthiness challenges each of us to dig deeper into our reservoir of innate strength and exhibit a greater measure of compassion, connection and courage. Only then are we willing to show up and let ourselves be seen.
Who Are You Becoming?
A common thread in the Dare to Be Brave series has been that we have to own and engage with vulnerability to transform our lives. There is a subtle, yet, huge spiritual and emotional cost that goes undetected for years, possibly decades when we shut down and disengage by prote…

Dare to Be Brave: Free Yourself from Social Masks and Emotional Armor Wk. 3

In Daring Greatly, Brené Brown writes, “As children we found ways to protect ourselves from vulnerability, from being hurt, diminished and disappointed. We put on armor, we used our thoughts, emotions and behaviors as weapons; and we learned how to make ourselves scarce, even to disappear. Now as adults, we realize that to live with courage, purpose and connection – to be the person whom we long to be- we must again be vulnerable. We must take off the armor, put down the weapon, show up, and let ourselves be seen.”
Social Masks and Emotional Armor
I can look back and identify those times when I lived uninhibited and embraced life wholeheartedly and other times when I felt it necessary to protect myself with social masks and emotional armor. The insights I gained by looking at my life from these two vantage points helped me to realize that the most satisfying success I’ve experienced so far in my personal and professional life has come during those periods when I am actively engaged with…

Dare to Be Brave: How to Develop Shame Resilience, Wk. 2

“The opposite of “never enough”…is what I call Wholeheartedness.”
~Brené Brown~

Whenever we tell ourselves, “I’m never good enough,” “I’m never smart enough,” “I’m never powerful enough,” “I’m never thin enough,” “I’m never enough,” these scripts are a reflection of internalized beliefs shaped by a culture of scarcity. We are all susceptible to being influenced by this culture of scarcity. The cure to ending our allegiance to the scarcity messages rampant in our culture is developing shame resilience.
In her book, Daring Greatly, Brené Brown quotes a passage from Lynn Twist’s book The Soul of Money in which Twist writes, “We spend most of the hours and days of our lives hearing, explaining, complaining, or worrying about what we don’t have enough of….Before we even sit up in bed, before our feet touch the floor, we’re already inadequate, already behind, already losing, lacking something…. This internal condition of scarcity, this mind-set of scarcity, lives at the very heart of our jealo…