Wednesday, May 27, 2015

Does Your Small-Talk Meet the Triple Filter Test? Read This Parable to Find Out.

As Game Changers, we have the responsibility of walking our talk. Whenever we commit actions that are not in alignment with who we are, it creates cognitive dissonance which is the mental stress we experience from behaving in a manner that is not congruent with our beliefs and values.

Our personal integrity and reputation are measured by the level of trust other people place in our consistency to walk our talk.

We've all heard the phrase, "Watch out for the small foxes that spoil the vine."

In the following parable, we are asked to  consider if  our small-talk meets the Triple Filter Test. I found this parable to be simple and profound.

Socrates was the great philosopher in ancient Greece and was held in high esteem. One day an acquaintance met the great philosopher and said, “Do you know what I just heard about your friend?”

“Hold on a minute”, Socrates replied. “Before telling me anything I’d like you to pass a little test. It’s called the Triple Filter Test.”

“That’s right”, Socrates continued. “Before you talk to me about my friend, it might be a good idea to take a moment and filter what you’re going to say. That’s why I call it the triple filter test.

The first filter is Truth. Have you made absolutely sure that what you are about to tell me is true?” “No,” the man said, “Actually I just heard about it and …” “All right”, said Socrates. “So you don’t really know if it’s true or not.

Now let’s try the second filter, the filter of Goodness. Is what you are about to tell me about my friend something good?” “No, on the contrary.” “So”, Socrates continued, “you want to tell me something bad about him, but you’re not certain it’s true.

You may still pass the test though because there’s one filter left: the filter of Usefulness. Is what you want to tell me about my friend going to be useful to me?” “No, not really.”

“Well”, concluded Socrates, “if what you want to tell me is neither true nor good nor even useful, why tell it to me at

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