Thursday, March 19, 2015

5 Tips You Need to Know to Be Successful



People often ask me, “How did you know you were going to succeed in becoming a successful leader, considering your humble beginnings as a housekeeper with Marriott Hotels in the face of the daunting odds against you?” Depending on the person and the context of the conversation, I draw on the wisdom of my experience to answer the question in a way that is relatable to their particular situation so that they can see how it is possible for them to achieve a particular goal.

When someone asks me this question, I understand it is often because they are wondering to themselves if they have what it takes to achieve a goal. This is a common thought among all of us when we set out to achieve a new goal. Which is why I share the tips outlined in this article with them so they understand what I believe to be core fundamentals to success. Before reviewing the tips, I share with them why I believe the level of conviction in one’s heart is the #1 factor in determining the level of success a person achieves in life.

Why Conviction is the #1 Factor for Success
The possibility that you can experience new possibilities in your life raises your hope and increases your faith in your ability to do what it takes to experience greater happiness and success. Hope and faith are critical to cultivating a belief in yourself. When a belief becomes a conviction in your soul you’ll begin to tap into a greater force of power that enables you to accomplish what others may have deemed to be impossible. Because your level of conviction towards a goal cannot be seen by others, there is no other way for anyone to be aware or be able to acknowledge your ability without you taking consistent action.

A conviction is a sense of knowing that you have something or someone that can’t always be explained in a logical way. Conviction is a firmly held belief or opinion. Firmly held implies that it’s not something that you will dismiss easily or question if it is so. You believe it to be and someone would have to fight you tooth and nail for you to even consider that it is not true for you. It is a belief or opinion that you will stand up for.

When I think of the passionate determination I demonstrated in my 20’s toward building my award-winning leadership career, I’ve come to realize that it wasn’t just a belief, I was convinced in my mind and heart that my children deserved better in life and it was up to me to make it happen. This belief became a conviction which fueled my desire to be more, learn more and do more.

This conviction enables me to see and seize opportunities to grow myself and grow my influence and impact as an emerging leader for Marriott Hotels. This conviction became my “Mighty Why”. Regardless of how I felt, what I thought about a particular task or who doubted my ability, it served as my compass for the attitude and level of commitment I showed up to work with day after day. It helped me to develop a mindset of being willing to do whatever it would take to be successful on the path I’d choose.

Your level of conviction towards any goal will influence how you show up and the consistency you demonstrate toward completing tasks relevant to your goals. My friend, the conviction in your heart toward a goal enables you to face your fears, overcome daunting odds, bounce back from setbacks and maintain an unwavering belief that you will accomplish your desired end.



Here are five tips you need to know to be successful.

1.     You need to genuinely care about people. You can have the book knowledge and skills to know how to do a particular job, however, no one can make you care about people. It’s an attribute that comes from within you, so if you don’t genuinely care about people and you want to be successful, you will need to cultivate it. When you genuinely care about people they know it. It’s how you show up daily in your interactions with others. It’s how you make people feel about themselves when they’re in your presence and what you say about them when they're not present.

Reflection Point: How would the people in your sphere of influence define the impact and legacy your life has had on their lives? Are their lives in some way better because of your presence in it? If so, what are the tangible ways that it is? If not, what can you do today to increase the tangible impact you have on the lives of those around you?


2.               You need to feel that now is your time. It doesn’t matter your age, whether you are 20-something or 50-something, if you believe that now is the time for you to pursue and achieve a dream then your desire to do so will enable you to take actions that will reveal a path for your unique talents. When you believe that “now” is your time, you will eliminate any distractions that inhibit your ability to do what matters most towards the achievement of your goal. These actions will fuel your momentum as you experience positive results from your efforts.

Reflection Point: Do you constantly talk to others about a dream or goal that you desire to accomplish, yet, you’ve taken little or no action towards making it happen? If so, it’s important for you to realize that there is no such thing as a perfect time to begin making strides toward a goal. Unless you believe that now is the time for you to start, you continue to talk about a dream or goal and that’ll be all you do…talk about it. You’ve got to put some skin in the game to win it. What can you do today to begin to stand up for your dreams with action?


3.               You must invest in your development. You don’t move from desiring something to having it without becoming the person that can manifest it. Investing in training that helps you develop the mindset, skill set and strategies essential to the success you desire is a key habit of highly successful people. Your personal development is your responsibility and it has to become a priority. Creating sustainable success throughout your lifetime requires that you become a lifelong learner.

If you’re not growing, you’re stagnating which over time leads to feeling stuck. There’s a difference between knowledge and skills. Knowledge is information that you have about a particular subject, whereas, skill is the ability to apply the information you know to produce specific results. Knowledge can be learned, where skill requires direct exposure to experiences to be developed.

Reflection Point: Identify your present knowledge and skill set relevant to your desired goal. What additional training do you need to invest in to close the gap between your present knowledge and skill set, and the knowledge and skill set needed to achieve your goal? Create a personal development plan that will help you stay focus and committed to making progress. Get an accountability partner, mentor or coach that will help you stay on track.


4.               You have to cultivate a resilient mindset. Success is rarely a straight path. Along the path, you will be faced with problems, obstacles, missteps, detours and setbacks that frustrate the smartest among us. Individuals who’ve learn how to master the meaning they attach to these experiences by telling themselves empowering stories about them develop their ability to ebb and flow with life instead of resisting reality. This is important because when you’re able to do this, most of your attention will be solution-oriented vs problem-oriented. Your energy follows where you direct your attention. And when you are faced with challenges, you need to embody a “can-do” attitude and positive energy to build momentum and move forward.

Reflection Point: Resilience is defined as the ability to recover quickly from difficulty. It is an emotional and mental toughness developed most often through experience. The manner in which you respond to the not-so-good times in your life displays your level of resiliency. So, be honest with yourself, how do you normally show up during these times? If you were to ask the people closest to you, what would they say? If your answers and there answers do not reflect a consistent display of resilience towards life’s challenges, what can you begin to do to increase your inner-strength so that you face life challenges with a “I will overcome this” mindset and bounce back quicker from setbacks?



5.                You have to be willing to do what it takes. Now that you’ve identified the knowledge and skill set required to achieve your goal, are you willing to do what it takes to make it happen? I ask this question because it is my experience that many people want the success they see others have attained but aren’t willing to do what those individuals have had to do to achieve their success. Regardless of the endeavor, there is a price that has to be paid to achieve success. Consider the cost and whether you are willing to pay it.

Reflection Point: This is where the rubber meets the road. Are you willing to invest the next three to five years of your life, doing many things you like and don’t like, dedicating your time and energy toward building momentum and producing results key to your success? This is vital because success is not a by-product of wishing and hoping. It is direct reflection of your willingness to develop your effectiveness toward the achievement of specific goals. This requires that you show up daily with a commitment towards personal excellence.

If you’ve ever played sports or done any form of training, your coach or trainer emphasized how important fundamentals are in preparing for a successful outcome. The five tips I’ve shared in this article, genuinely care about people, believe that now is your time, invest in your personal development, cultivate a resilient mindset and be willing to do what it takes are what I consider to be fundamentals for success. Mastering these fundamentals will enable you to prepare and position yourself to produce results that expand your opportunities to be more, learn more, do more and experience more success.

Bonus: Tony Robbin’s Video: From Belief to Conviction.



Now I’d love to hear from you. Which of these tips have enabled you to produce sustainable success? Share your response in the comments below.

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Sending you lots of love and positive energy



Author Bio: Jackie Capers Brown is the CEO of Positive Change Coaching Solutions. She is an author, motivational speaker and Mentor to Game Changers. Feeling stuck? Move forward empowered by the My DRIVE Advantage™ Strategy. Start to manifest new possibilities in your life. Wake up feeling good about yourself and life. Read Jackie’s latest book, Get Unstuck Now: Changing Your Story, Unleashes Your Power to Move On and Be Happy.  Follow Jackie on Twitter.