Agreement reinforces reality. Your agreement with any belief or idea makes it stronger.
The Law of Agreement at Work
We can easily see how the Law of Agreement works by looking at an example. If, for instance, one person in your family believes “you think too much of yourself” because you are striving to achieve a goal that no one else in your family has ever attempted to achieve, and he or she begins to influence other members of your family to believe the same. Well, you happen to hear through the grapevine that some of your family do not agree with your goals, and at family functions, you begin to feel like there is an invisible wedge between you and some of them. The actions of these family members are a reflection of their agreement with the belief that “you are thinking too much of yourself”. This is a prime example of the Law of Agreement at work in a family.
If your family’s approval dictates your sense of worth, you will unconsciously begin to self-sabotage. You can talk about your dreams from here until eternity, unless you stop making excuses as to why you are not making progress towards your dreams, acknowledge and address the fear of rejection you assume will occur within your family if you continue to pursue your dreams, you will not make headway towards their accomplishment.
Your lack of initiative and self-sabotaging behavior is a reflection of your unconscious agreement with the belief held by members of your family who would prefer that you continue to play small. Burroughs writes, “…we all have the option, at any given moment, to agree with what’s going on and thus add to – or to withhold our agreement and therefore stop reinforcing a reality or system of beliefs that’s run its course.”
You have the ability to discern what is working for you and what is not. You can choose to say, “Hey, I don’t think that I’m better than anyone in my family but I do believe that I can do better. And it’s up to me to make it so.” You can continue to agree with those family members who want you to continue to play small, or you can own your power and take authority of your life to live the life of your dreams. No idea or belief has the power to stop us from striving to achieve a dream unless we agree to let it.
Letting Go of Agreements
“Think about it for a moment. Every time someone else whether, it’s a good friend in casual conversation or a TV news person presents us with an idea or a belief, we are simultaneously being offered the chance to go along with them (and thus strengthen their belief, or to reject (or simply not react to what they are saying. And in doing so, we refrain from tying ourselves to their encumbering ideas…And here’s the kicker: every time we refrain from reacting or nodding in any way, we will have just raised our consciousness, and everything in our life will proceed differently from that moment forward.”
Power Agreements for Manifesting Dreams
As we become less suggestible and more discerning of our social influences, we can become empowered to own our strong and stand with a conviction of our individual beliefs without an “AMEN” corner. In his work with his Intenders Circles, Burroughs identifies “three agreements that will catapult us into our power right away.” According to Burroughs, “These three Power Agreements open the door for us to manifest anything we want.” They are as follows:
. I am unlimited in every way. Your life is limited by how far your thoughts and actions will take you. Most of your limitations in life are self-imposed restraints that begin and end in your mind. Once you begin to transform your thought life, you can align your thoughts, beliefs, and behaviors with a vision of purpose that will serve as a guide to help you navigate a path of new possibilities.
I am open to receive from unexpected sources. When you let go of your predetermined assumptions as to how the resources and people you need to manifest your dreams will unfold, you can activate this power agreement. How many times have you had a desire to achieve a goal and you thought to yourself, “I want this to happen in so and so manner?” When your plan did not go as you hoped, did you think, “It’s not meant to be, otherwise it would have happened as I wanted it to?” This manner of thinking limits the number of ways your dreams can manifest. Rarely will your plans to achieve your dreams follow a straight and narrow path. When you maintain an open and flexible attitude towards the achievement of your dreams, you create a space for miracles to happen.
I am unconcerned with what others think about me. It takes courage to overcome your concerns of feeling rejected by others. It is natural for us to want to belong and feel accepted by others. It is not in your best interest to allow this need to overshadow your ability to portray your authentic and strong self. When people in your key relationships prefer that you play small so that they can feel good about themselves, you are doing yourself a disservice and agreeing to their limiting beliefs about you. The acknowledgement of your agreements, consciously or unconsciously, with beliefs and ideas that no longer serve your ability to express your highest self is a critical step towards the manifestation of your desired reality.
Barrie Davenport says, “Self-awareness is always the first step toward personal evolution and empowerment.” I invite you to “get to know your agreements” by completing the following self-discovery quiz. Just like the Dorothy character in the Wizard of Oz, you have come to realize from the information in this article that “you have had the power all alone” to get to your desired destinations in life. That power rests with the agreements that are influencing the quality of your life.
The following self-discovery questions will help you gain an awareness of the agreements you are making, consciously or unconsciously in your life, and how they are propelling your life forward, or holding it back.
I suggest that you write your answers on a blank sheet of paper. This will help you to “see” a connection to the thoughts, beliefs, and assumptions that are empowering you to initiate behavior that is manifesting good fruit in some areas of your life, while helping you to “see” the thoughts, beliefs, and assumptions that are hindering your personal growth and development in other areas of your life.
- · In what areas of your life are you experiencing success? What are the agreements (the beliefs and ideas that you have bought into) that resulted in your ability to create success in these areas of your life?
- · In what areas of your life are you experiencing frustration with your progress? What are the agreements (the beliefs and ideas that you have bought into) that are influencing your lack of progress in these areas of your life?
- · In your past, what agreements (the beliefs and ideas that you bought into) enabled you to create success in various areas of your life?
- · In your past, what agreements (the beliefs and ideas that you bought into) influenced self-sabotaging behavior that limited your ability to make progress in various areas of your life?
- · Identify the common agreements (the beliefs and ideas that you bought into) that inspires your success, in the past and present.
- · Identify the common agreements (the beliefs and ideas that you bought into) that has influenced your lack of progress, in the past and present.
- · Are the agreements that has influenced your lack of progress based on facts (True or False, Objective, Beyond Dispute and Verifiable) or, an opinion (An observation rather than an objective reality, either valid or invalid based on the perspective of the opinion holder, can be found to be invalid if there is lack of evidence to support its validity).
Any time we begin to make moves to challenge the status quo in our life we will experience resistance, from within and those who are accustomed to us being a certain way. Expect it. Do not get upset about it. It is part of the process of our evolution. It is important that you continue to choose every day to take action that will move you forward, even when you do not feel like it. Buy into agreements that improve the quality of your thoughts, decisions, and actions. They will increase your capacity to manifest more of what you want in life.