7 Steps to Changing Your Negative Scripts

"Well-meaning, intelligent people often resort to repeating self-defeating behavior in their personal and professional lives," writes Robert Brooks PH.D and Sam Goldstein, authors of The Power of Resilience. Many individuals regardless of their state in life blindly follow preconditioned scripting that do not encourage creativity or their potential. Some are aware of how their behavior is not serving their best interest, yet they continue to repeat the same behavior over and over again. Are these individuals stuck with the negative internal scripting that has permeated their lives? Or, can they change them?

If you have been reading this blog for some time, you know that I believe that each of us have the capacity within us to change. It's not a matter of "can we change". It's more a matter of "do we have the faith to believe that we can change" and if so, how can begin to initiate the transformation.

Personal Transformation is an Inside-Out Process, Not a One-time Event

Brooks and Goldstein acknowledges that personal transformation from the inside out may take time, "depending on how long and how frequently the scripts has been used, awareness of the script, openness to change, and how effectively the person can deal with the obstacles that typically emerge when attempting to modify life long patterns".

In the book, The Art of Possibility, Rosamund Stone Zander and Benjamin Zander writes, "many of the circumstances that seem to block us in our daily lives may only appear to do so based on a framework of assumptions we carry with us". They argue, "Draw a different frame around the same set of circumstances and new pathways come into view. Find the right framework and extraordinary accomplishment becomes an everyday experience".

The Zander's point out, The frames our minds create define and confine - what we perceive to be possible. Every problem, every dilemma, every dead end we find ourselves facing in life, only appears unsolvable inside a particular frame or point of view. Enlarge the box, or create another frame around the data, and the problems vanish, while new opportunities appear".

Steps to Changing Negative Internal Scripts

Shifting our assumptions about what is possible in life empowers us to live, feel and behave in a manner that fosters a resilient mindset and allow us to embrace an attitude that "all things are possible to he or she that believes". In the book, The Power of Resilience, Brooks and Goldstein shares a sequence of steps which can help each of us embark on the journey of changing negative scripts.

The main steps in the sequence of steps are as follows:
  • Identify negative scripts in oneself and take responsibility for change (don't look for others to change first).
  • Define short - and long-term goals related to the issue at hand.
  • Consider possible new scripts or plans of action that are in accord with your goals.
  • Select from these new scripts the one that you believe has the greatest change for success, and list criteria for assessing the success of the new script.
  • Anticipate the potential obstacle to success and how these obstacles might be managed.
  • Perform the new script you have selected and assess its effectiveness.
  • Change goals or scripts or approach if the selected course of action proves unsuccessful.

You and I both know how easy it is to "see" the change other people need to make while having "tunnel vision" to the changes that we need to make. By embarking on a journey of self-discovery we can "get real" with ourselves. We have a choice in taking personal leadership of our lives and begin to question the stories that lie behind our assumptions towards what is possible in our lives.

This my friend puts us in the driver seat of our life. Instead of allowing negative scripting hinder us from all the good that is possible in our lives, we can create shifts in our thinking that transforms our attitudes and behaviors enabling us to create a life that reflects our heart desires and allows us to live out our God-given purpose. 

We already possess the power to break free from the confines of limited thinking. We can begin to nurture personal practices which enlarge the vision we have of what's possible in our life and take purpose-filled actions that empower us to manifest that which is invisible into our visible world.

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