Tuesday, November 27, 2012

Five Common Reasons People Don’t Believe in Dreaming

Keep your dreams alive. Understand to achieve anything requires faith and belief in yourself, vision, hard work, determination, and dedication. Remember all things are possible for those who believe.
~Gail Devers~

In his book, Put Your Dreams to the Test: 10 Questions to Help You See It and Seize It, John Maxwell defines a dream as “an inspiring picture of the future that energizes your mind, will, and emotions, empowering you to do everything you can to achieve it.” What is it in your mind’s eye that is propelling you forward to express your personal best? Or, have you allowed disappointments and daunting odds keep you from imagining new possibilities for your life? Your self-talk influences what you believe to be possible in your life, and if not managed it will create ticker-tape beliefs that generate fear, uncertainty and doubt (F.U.D.). These factors play a crucial role in your willingness “to pursue” or “not to pursue” the dreams in your heart.

Maxwell identifies in his book the five most common reasons that people don’t dream. As you review these reasons, consider the beliefs and non-resilient thinking habits that you exhibit that are undermining your faith to believe that God desires wholeheartedly for you to express the fullness of your seeds of greatness in the earth. Doing so honors God and his faithfulness to his word and empowering you to manifest it in your life.

Five Reasons People Don’t Dream

1.      Some People Have Been Discouraged From Dreaming by Others.

When you were a child, were you encouraged to imagine a great future as an adult and what it would be like? Were you told by others that you had “something” that could make a difference in the world? Did you feel supported by parents and others to pursue your interests and express your talents?

If you were one of the fortunate ones, your parents and other caregivers encouraged you as a kid to pursue various interests and express your talents in areas that were no doubt an area of strength. Yet, there are many more of us who didn’t have this luxury of growing up in such environment. Some of us have been able to take the small morsels of encouragement that we did receive along the way, and maximize them to the best of our ability. Some of us had no support and encouragement during our childhood or adolescence. As a result there is a thirst in our souls for support and encouragement from others when we become adults.

Regardless of where you are on this continuum, it is important to note that as an adult you have every right to prepare yourself for expressing your personal best. When you decide to do so, it is important that you position yourself around people and environments that celebrate you and challenges you to grow into your greatness. Today, you have the power to choose if you will allow the dream crushers that have crossed your path to have the final say on whom you will become and the quality of the life that you live.

2.      Some People Are Hindered by Past Disappointments and Hurts

Maxwell writes, “When something goes wrong, we say, “I’ll never do that again!” “What a mistake when it comes to our dreams!” “Failure, he says, is the price we pay to achieve success. Some people must face failure repeatedly before they move forward in the pursuit of their dreams.”

Margaret Thatcher, former British Prime Minister stated, “You may have to fight a battle more than once to win it.”

Before throwing in the towel regarding a dream in which you are very passionate about, consider talking to someone who has a track record for making their dreams come true, or read books about people who have made their dreams come true in the face of daunting odds. Pay attention to the best practices that each person demonstrated on their journey, and determine which would be relevant to your situation and begin to integrate the practice as much as you are able. Many times, the approach that we are taking towards a dream has to be readjusted to increase the effectiveness of our efforts to bear fruit.

3.      Some People Get In the Habit of Settling for Average

Columnist Maureen Dowd says, “The minute you settle for less than you deserve, you get even less than you settle for. Dreams require a person to stretch, to go beyond average. You can’t reach for a dream and remain safely mediocre at the same time. The two are incompatible.”

Kenneth Hildebrand, author of Achieving Real Happiness writes, “The poorest of all men is not the one without a nickel to his name. He is the fellow without a dream… [He is like] a great ship made for the mighty ocean but trying to navigate in a mill pond. He has no far port to reach, no lifting horizon, no precious cargo to carry. His house is absorbed in routine and petty tyrannies. Small wonder if he gets dissatisfied, quarrelsome and “fed up” [because] one of life’s greatest tragedies is a person with a 10-by-12 capacity and a two-by-four soul.”

4.      Some People Lack the Confidence Needed to Pursue their Dreams

Maxwell writes, “The more confidence you have in yourself, the less likely you are to give up trying to get what you want.” Confidence, I’ve learned is directly linked to the level of competence we have towards a task. When we build our competency in any particular area of our life, our self-confidence in this particular aspect of life improves. Building your competence in areas of great interest and passion will improve not only your self-confidence in this area, but it will have a ripple effect on other areas of your life.

5.     S
ome People Lack the Imagination to Dream

Imagination is the soil that brings a dream to life. Albert Einstein called the imagination, “a holy curiosity”. Everything that is tangible to us in the world underwent two creations, first in the imagination of mankind, second in the tangible form of its creation on the earth.

Dreams fires up your imagination. They spark new attitudes and fresh perspectives on how you see yourself and your life. Dreams evoke you to believe in that which is not seen to the naked eye and compels you to take action to manifest that which you imagine to be your reality. Pursuing your dreams will literally transform your life.

Protect Your Dreams

Maxwell assets, “Dreams are fragile, they are at greatest risk when:

ü  They are new to you

ü  When people you love and respect don’t approve of them

ü  When you have no past record of success to give you confidence

By increasing your self-awareness of ticker-tape beliefs that are constantly sounding off why you can’t achieve a dream, begin to take steps to transform your negative self-talk.

Power Move:
Set aside 30 minutes each day to think about the dreams that you’ve placed on the back burner in your life. As you think about these and new dreams, keep a notepad near you, so that you can record the thoughts that you begin to have about the possibility of achieving them. As you begin to have thoughts of possibility, take relevant action that will help you to make moves forward. Every journey of a thousand miles started with the first step. Check out my audio video: Stand Up for Your Dreams.

It’s Your Move ~Aspire Higher