Transformation is a process, a journey, not a one-time decision.
Personal transformation requires us to be ready to embark upon the journey with a growth-mindset. Carol Dweck, a noted researcher and professor at Stanford University and the author of Mindset: The New Psychology of Success has discovered that “people with a growth mindset who believe in challenging themselves through self-improvement and learning experiences, actually experience more success in life then people who believe their intelligence is fixed. People with a fixed mindset avoid putting themselves into situation in which they will be challenged and might fail, and they avoid learning goals.”
When was the last time that you deliberately engage any form of learning/training with a purpose of bringing about positive change in your life? Were you able to stick with the program and realize your desired results, or did you find yourself faced with “wanting to do the right thing but finding yourself doing just the opposite towards the change you wanted”? Were you mentally ready for the change?
Stages of Readiness
The article, Stages of Readiness for Change on the University of Minnesota website provides the six stages of change, identified by psychologist James O. Prochaska they are:
“People at this stage usually have no intention of changing their behavior, and typically deny having a problem. Although their friends, neighbors, doctors, or co-workers can see the problem quite clearly, the typical precontemplator can’t.” According to Prochaska, “Precontemplators are often demoralized and don’t want to think about their problem because they feel that the situation is hopeless.”
“I want to stop feeling so stuck. Those simple words are typical of contemplators. In the contemplation stage, people acknowledge that they have a problem and begin to think seriously about solving it. Contemplators struggle to understand their problem, see its causes, and begin to wonder about possible solutions. Prochaska states, “Many people in this stage have vague plans to make changes, they are often not ready to take action yet.” Sad but true, he says, “Many people remain in the contemplation stage for years.”