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Simple Steps to Managing an Emotional Energy Crisis

Energy is the power that drives every human being. It is not lost by exertion, but maintained by it, for it is a faculty of the psyche.
~Germaine Greer~

“The single biggest difference between people who get what they want and the people who don’t is energy,” says Mira Kirshenbaum, psychotherapist and clinical director of the Chestnut Hill Institute in Boston. In her book TheEmotional Energy Factor, she wrote, “It is a misconception the energy we require is primarily physical. Yes, you need to sleep, water, nutrients and exercise. However, her survey of endocrinologists, nutrionists and sports medicine experts turned up an antagonist consensus: 70 percent of our total energy is emotional – the kind that manifest as hope, resilience, passion, fun and enthusiasm.” Kirshenbaum says, “You’re not just a body. It’s not just your body that needs more energy. It’s you, the whole person. The emotional side of you is as important as your body. So it makes sense there’s another energy source. It’s …

9 Simple Truths for Living Wise: Part 4

1.I’ve learned that you can’t have everything and do everything at the same time. I hope you’ll tell yourself the truth about what matters most to you, know that your hours in life are limited for attaining it- then decide how you’ll use your most precious resource. ~ Oprah
2.There is no reality, only perception. Try to get people to see things through your eyes and recognize your responsibilities with the limited time that you do have. Most important, know that you cannot control the feelings of others. All you can do is give them information and try to influence their thinking. ~ Dr. Phil
3.Money is never a measure of self-worth. It’s not even a very good predictor of financial success. But some of the things that point to financial responsibility, if not success, are also qualities that make for a dependable loving spouse. ~ Suze Orman
4.Remember, for better or worse, marriage is the legal joining of two financial lives. ~ Suze Orman
5.Before you say “I Do” [to any relationship that inv…

Leaders: Are You Maximizing Your Business “Moments of Truth?”

Do what you do so well that they will want to see it again and bring their family.
~Walt Disney~

In today’s competitive marketplace customers are demanding more for their hard-earned money. Organizations that have failed to meet the expectations of their customers are currently experiencing the impact to their bottom line in the loss of revenue and profits. With so many options available to consumers, organizations cannot afford to take them for granted. Sustainable business success is directly linked to how each organization on a  day to day basis convinces consumers to spend their hard-earned money with them versus their competitors.
As a business leader, I understand that labor is a controllable expense for most organizations and that it has to be managed to help meet the budgeted manhours for forcasted revenue. I don’t understand why it seems that  so many service businesses aren’t leveraging the data from sales and customer complaints to improve their level of customer service duri…

Makeover My Attitude Challenge: Nuturing a Wise Heart, Wk 2

Nurturing a Wise Heart
Guard your heart above all else for it determines the course of your life.
~Proverbs 4:23 ~

Biblical, the heart is thought to be comprised of your intellect, emotions and human will. Nurturing a wise heart would then be reflected in your diligent efforts to maintain principle-centered values and beliefs that empower you to conduct yourself and manage your life in alignment with the expression of your wisest and strongest self. For the purpose of the Makeover My Attitude Challenge,Nurturing a Wise Heartentails accessing underlying beliefs that have created heart attitudes that prevent you from realizing your full potential. This includes taking a proactive approach towards re-scripting limiting beliefs, so that are empowered to consistently think, believe and take actions that are aligned with your life’s purposes.
We are all artists, in that we have the capacity to re-imagine ourselves and our circumstances. We have the freedom to choose differently so that we can e…

Bloom Where You Are Planted

As long as we are persistence in our deepest destiny, we will continue to grow. We cannot choose the day or time when we will fully bloom. It happens in its own time.
~Denis Waitley~

One of the most important lessons I learned starting from a position of a housekeeper with Marriott Hotels and working my way up through the ranks of management in its Courtyard division, to becoming an award-winning leader and the GM of Marriott’s Fairfield Inn hotel in Wilmington, NC is this, you cannot wait for the “ideal” circumstances to appear before you take action towards making a dream in your heart a reality. You have to prepare and position yourself for the success that you want to experience, and that often requires taking initiative towards a goal versus waiting and hoping that your talent is discovered.
If I had chosen to wait until I “felt” as if I knew “enough” to pursue advancement opportunities with the company, I would have missed out on so many opportunities. Despite the challenges that c…

The Power of Your Faith

Your belief determines your action and your action determines your results, but first you have to believe.
~Mark Victor Hansen~
Sometimes we need to be reminded of the powerful gift that exists in the Power of Faith that Works.

The power of your faith creates the space for  you to come to an acceptance of what you don’t understand, even when it’s painful. Your faith fuels your belief in God’s “divine plan” working together for your good.

Your faith brings meaning and purpose to your life. It can reduce your anxiety and bring a sense of comfort during stressful times. Your faith helps you to make sense of our world – and trust that God can work in and through us to help us manage our everyday lives.

Research has shown that people who use spirituality/religion as an end in and of itself seem to do better emotionally then those who use spirituality/religion as a means to change some tangible outcome. In other words, we feel better in our walk of faith when we worship God for who He is and not…

Something to Think About: The Optimist Creed

Promise Yourself...

To be so strong that nothing can disturb your peace of mind. To talk health, happiness and prosperity to every person you meet. To make all your friends feel that there is something in them. To look at the sunny side of everything and make your optimism come true. To think only of the best, to work only for the best, and to expect only the best. To be just as enthusiastic about the success of others as you are about your own. To forget the mistakes of the past and press on to the greater achievements of the future. To wear a cheerful countenance at all times and give every living creature you meet a smile. To give so much time to the improvement of yourself that you have no time to criticize others. To be too large for worry, too noble for anger, too strong for fear, and too happy to permit the presence of trouble.

The Optimist Creed was written in 1912 by Christian D. Larson to summon all the good in life. This adaptation is from the Secret Official Web Site of The …

Leaders: Are You a Multiplier or Diminisher?

The most valuable asset of the 20th Century company was its production equipment. The most valuable asset of a 21st Century institution, whether business or non-business, will be its knowledge worker and their productivity.
~Peter Drucker~
To build successful organizations, leaders have an obligation to enhance the smarts and performance of individuals at all levels, regardless of rather it is a for-profit or non-profit. If more people in your organization were fully engaged in providing excellent service and products, how much more success would your organization experience? Leaders have the power to influence a smart and peak performing culture. First, they have to recognize how their current behavior is helping to create their present workplace culture and, second, they have to be willing to modify their behavior to nurture a smart and peak performance culture. Are People Smarter Because of You?  Generally, people don’t care much about what a leader knows until he or she has shown the…

9 Simple Truths for Living Wise, Part 3

1.When we let go of being the one who suffers, we are free to bring blessings wherever we go. ~ Tao Te Ching

2.Resistance to the pain is worse than feeling the pain. ~ Geneen Roth

3.The suffering and happiness in our world, both individual and collective depend on our consciousness. We have to find wiser ways to live. The good news is that it is eminently possible to do so. ~Jack Kornfield

4.We are here to grow in wisdom and compassion, to grow in the path of awakening. ~ Ajan Chah

5.Wisdom is harnessing the strength of our own better nature by working with it.

6.A person’s life purpose is nothing more than to rediscover through the detours of art, or love, or passionate work, those one or two images in the presence of which his heart first opened. ~ Albert Camus

7.There is an old contemplative saying: “If you cannot improve the silence, do not speak.”

8.To love without expectation = unconditional love. ~ Geneen Roth


Makeover My Attitude Challenge: Embrace Spiritual Awakenings, Wk 1

You Are Stronger Than You Think
You don’t know you can do something difficult until you do it, because it’s in the doing that you find your strength.
~Sherri Shepherd, co-host of the The View~ In the book Firstlight, Sue Monk Kidd writes, “In every life there are defining moments when one’s heart begins to open, when the realization of who one is begins to dawn. These moments may be huge – or they may be small and subtle. But each leaves a person forever changed.” These defining moments in which our heart becomes capable of releasing more love toward God, our self and other people, while expanding our understandings and wisdom beyond the surface of what we see with our natural eyes is what I consider to be “spiritual awakenings”. They have also been defined as “the waking of consciousness to the remembrance of its original nature.” As spiritual beings having a human experience, each of us encounter moments of awakening within our unseen life when our consciousness expands and we experienc…

You’ve Got It, Work It

As a man [or woman] thinks, so is he [or she].
~Proverbs 23:7
In the movie, The Wizard of Oz, we watch as each of the main characters come to realize that the very thing they want the Wizard to give them is already within their capacities. In your everyday life, how are you allowing self-doubt to prevent you from “seeing” your seeds of greatness? How can you begin to champion your seeds of greatness in the world that would bless your life and the life of others?

I want you to consider how the characters of the Wizard of Oz went through unnecessary adversities simply because they didn’t look inward to define their self-worth and ability. Are there areas of your life in which you are allowing your self-worth and confidence to be based on external factors? How’s that working for you? Personal transformation that takes place from the inside–out has a better chance of being sustainable for the long-term.
The Scarecrow doesn’t think he’s smart enough to endure difficulties, and yet all along h…

9 Simple Truths for Living Wise, Part 2

Imagination is the beginning of creation. You imagine what you desire, you will what you imagine and at last you create what you will.
~George Bernard Shaw~
1.You cannot change without unless you change within.

2.Excuses never lead to major achievements.

3.Good enough preserves the “status quo”.

4.When you come to the point that you “believe” and “know” at the core of your being that something is “possible” – you will find a way to make it so!

5.Worrying about “what if” doesn’t change “what is”.

6.Show don’t tell. Action speaks louder than mere words.

7.Your words have creative power. Be mindful of the words that you use to speak to yourself, others and the conditions of your life. They are either blessing your life or cursing it.

8.Respect other people’s opinion, regardless of rather or not you agree with it. They have the same right as you do to think they way that they choose.

Give Your Mind Somewhere Good to Go

The decision to be happy is actually the decision to stop being unhappy.
~Barry Neil Kaufman~
When was the last time you gave some thought to your level of happiness? Is it something that you think about often, or is it a fleeting thought as you continue to run on the hamster wheel of life? Do you believe that you can experience a greater sense of happiness, or are you at a point where you feel that your happiness is at a set point in life? Are you like many people searching for their happiness in external factors, when the truth is happiness is all in your head?
That’s right. It’s all in your head. Stephan M. Pollan and Mark Levine authors of It’s All inYour Head: Thinking Your Way to Happiness writes, “You’ve already got everything you need to be happy. [T]he phrase “it’s all in your head” is intended as a condescending comment: that whatever it is you’re feeling isn’t real, that it’s a figment of your imagination.” They say, “The key to a fulfilled joyous life…comes not from material,…