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Making Everyone Around You Better

He is greatest whose strength carries up the most hearts by attraction of his own.

~Henry Ward Beecher ~
What would happen to the quality of your relationships if everyone in the sphere of your influence became better as a result of deliberate action on your part to make it so?  This article provides you with simple ideas that can help you make what you just imagined for your relationships a reality instead of a mere thought.

Dale Carnegie shares in his best-selling book, How to Win Friends and Influence People, six principles that will empower you to cultivate supportive and meaningful relationships in every aspect of your life. When practiced on a consistent basis, these six principles enable you to influence the positive regard others have of you and increase your capacity to inspire them to express their best-self. The principles are:

1.      Become genuinely interested in other people.

2.      Smile.

3.      Remember that a person’s name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language.

4.      Be a good listener. Encourage other people to talk about themselves.

5.      Talk in terms of the person’s interests.

6.      Make the other person feel important – and do it sincerely.

Show Them You Care

People don’t care about how much you know until they know how much you care. Mary Kay Ash, founder of Mary Kay Cosmetics gave this advice to her sales team, “pretend that every single person you meet has a sign around his or her neck that says, Make Me Feel Important. Not only will you succeed in sales, you will succeed in life.”
Consider the everyday challenges that the people in your sphere of influence face on a regular basis. How can you help diminish the negative impact these challenges may have on how they see themselves and what they are capable of doing in life? Any action on your part to demonstrate to them your commitment to being helpful and supportive builds up your emotional bank account in each relationship. In a world that seems to be filled with pessimism and sarcasm, you can be a “bright spot” in the life of others. You can inspire faith in the hearts of others that they can maintain the hope necessary to realize their dreams.

Be a Bright Spot of Positive Influence

Blessed is the influence of one true, loving human soul on another.

~George Eliot ~

If I asked you to write down the names of five people who has had the greatest positive influence on your life, your list would certainly include individuals who has demonstrated sincere concern for you on a consistent basis. These individuals created a memorable “impression” on your heart and mind because they chose to contribute their time and effort towards making a difference in your life. Their actions represent their legacy in your life.
In your relationships, how are you creating lasting impressions of showing sincere concern on the hearts and minds of those in your sphere of influence?  What are you doing to inspire hope in the hearts and minds of others? How are you helping to strengthen their faith so that they don’t allow moments of discouragement prevent them from sticking to their commitment to realizing their dreams?

You know from the positive examples that you’ve had in your life, how someone reaching out to you with care and concern impacted your wellbeing, how are you paying it forward? The gratitude that you feel in your heart for those individuals who serve as “bright spots” in your life indicates the importance of taking deliberate action to help make the people around your better.

People may forget your name, but they never forget how you made them feel. In the spirit of making a difference and the challenge to help those around you express their best-self, practice Dale Carnegie’s six principles in your sphere of influence and you will be a “bright spot” in someone’s life. The conversations that they have with others about individuals who stepped up and helped them to become all that they could be, will include your name.  What a wonderful honor to have in the life of someone. Don’t you think?  

 It’s Your Move ~ Aspire Higher



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