Wednesday, September 26, 2012

Attributes that Help You Work Well with Others

Teamwork is the ability to work together toward a common vision. It is the ability to direct individual accomplishment toward organizational objectives. It is the fuel that allows common people to attain uncommon results.

~Andrew Carnegie~

You can achieve most of what you want as long as you are willing to do what matters most towards its achievement. Regardless of your talents, you will always need to develop and nurture positive and supportive relationships with others if you expect to get your ideas implemented and achieve your aspirations.  In Managing Your Greatest Workplace Frustration, I shared the four factors of Emotional Intelligence (EI) which author Daniel Goleman insists are critical to workplace success. I believe they are critical to enjoying supportive and loving relationships in all walks of life. The factors are: self-awareness, self-management, social awareness and relationship management.

Many years before EI became a well-known concept, I began practicing these skills as an entry-level employee at the Columbia Marriott hotel. Other than my faith in God and my farmer’s work ethic, I credit the development of interpersonal skills and situational awareness for enabling me to become an award-winning business leader with the company.

The following is a list of twelve character attributes that helped me to develop and nurture effective EI skills:

1.      Build strong alliances.

2.      Persuade rather than coerce.

3.      Subscribe to honesty and integrity.

4.      Never respond with vengeance or spite.

5.      Have the courage to handle unjust criticism.

6.      Be decisive.

7.      Establish and achieve goals.

8.      Lead by example.

9.      Be solution and results-oriented.

10. Encourage creativity and innovation.

11. Master the art of one-on-one and group communication skills.

12. Communicate a vision and reaffirm your commitment toward it with consistent and relevant actions.

These character attributes were developed over time. They enabled me to step up and take the lead in my workplace, before I had a leadership position. They empowered me to lead from within. You can do the same. When you accept responsibility and hold yourself accountable for  developing effective relationship skills, you will experience positive changes in your relationships, at work and at home.
In my book, SuccessBecomes You Goal Achievement Workbook, I share several examples of how these attributes contributed towards the development of relationships with individuals at all levels within Marriott and the difference those relationships made on my success with the company. Click on the link in this post or on the home page of my blog to look inside of the workbook.

It’s Your Move ~ Aspire Higher