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The Power of Smart Habits

" Motivation is what gets you started. Habit is what keeps you going." ~Jim Rohn~

Individuals who experience sustainable success in life share a common trait; they develop smart habits. Their ability to foster situational awareness in diverse environments enables them tocontribute value by leveraging their skills, knowledge and talents towards the achievement of objectives deemed most important in any given environment.
Our capacity to contribute to the success of our families, churches, workplaces and communities is directly tied to our personal habits. Developing smart thinking and smart behavioral habits combined with situational awareness are keys to our well-being in life.

How to Experience Workplace Delight

"If you are going to achieve excellence in big things, you develop the habit in little matters. Excellence is not an exception, it is a prevailing attitude." ~Charles R. Swindoll~
 When we act generously towards others, biologically our bodies are flooded with feel-good hormones. When we act good towards others it makes us feel good inside and inspires us to want to do more for others. In you new job, you have the opportunity to start and sustain your progress in the workplace by simply practicing random acts of kindness towards your bosses, co-workers, and vendors of the organization. Too often in the workplace we focus so much of our time and energies on our stuff that we become self-absorbed and less attentive to the needs of those around us. Yes, we are being paid to complete our job to the expectations of our bosses, but why should that prohibit us from showing kindness towards those we interact with on a daily basis? It doesn’t. What can we do to increase our workplace de…

Benefits of Cultivating Positive Belief Habits

What we believe can literally shape how we experience life. I was seven years old when Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. was assassinated on April 4, 1968. I can still recall the anger, the shock and disbelief that engulfed members of my family, my neighbors, the black community, our nation and the world as a result of this tragedy. For weeks after his death, WIS-Radio, a local station in Columbia, SC played snippets of Dr. King’s “I Have a Dream” speech. Each time I listened to a clip of his speech, my seven-year old self became more and more convinced that Dr. King was speaking directly to me. Call it naiveté’, if you will, but my childlike faith believed this at the core of my being. Hearing portions of Dr. King’s speech, over and over began to paint images in my mind of a better America. Living in the heart of Dixie where “blacks only” and “whites only” signs in public spaces was the status quo his words inspired me with hope. My newfound hope in a better America encouraged me to believe…

In Hunt of the Good Stuff

What went well today for you? Did you allow yourself to embrace the positive thoughts and emotions that came as a result of the experience or do you have the tendency to downplay the good in your life?

Research has proven that positive emotions and thoughts are enhanced by a person's ability to acknowledge and express gratitude in their life. Gratitude benefits our quality of sleep, relationships, health and productivity level in the various roles we play in life.

Begin to take time out during your day to acknowledge the good that is in your life. Everything do not have to be perfect or "as you want it" to nurture a heart of gratitude towards what you already have. Hunt for the good stuff happening in your life. You will be pleasantly surprised.

Share in the comment section of this post some of the good stuff you would like to acknowledge in your life.

It's Your Move ~ Aspire Higher

The Habit of Yes!

To what can you say YES to in life:

You can say YES to positive emotions
You can say YES to more engagement in life and work
You can say YES to better relationships
You can say YES to more meaning in life
You can say YES to positive accomplishments

You can say YES to more well-being.

Adapted from Authentic Happiness website

It's Your Move ~ Aspire Higher

Are You Cultivating Smart Habits? 3 Questions You Need to Ask Yourself

Aristotle stated, “We are what we repeatedly do, excellence than is not an act, but a habit.

In the book, The Power of Habit, Charles Duhigg states, “Habits are choices that we deliberately make at some point and then stop thinking about but continue doing, often every day.” Just like the dominoes in the picture above, our habits in one area of life impacts our effectiveness in other aspects of our life. If we're not mindful of the development of smart habits, our not-so smart habits can begin to have a dominoes effect in every aspect of our life.

In the upcoming week, I want you to think of yourself as a scientist performing an experiment.  In the experiment, you will identify the dominant thinking and behavioral habits that are a part of your daily routine and consider the following three questions:

1.What am I creating in my life as a result of this habit?
2.How is this habit contributing value in my life and in the lives of others?
3.Has this habit outlived its usefulness?


Quotes on Habits

A man who gives his children habits of industry provides for them better than by giving them fortune.~Richard Whately~

Achieve success in any area of life by identifying the optimum strategies and repeating them until they become habits. ~Charles J. Givens
Good habits are worth being fanatical about. ~John Irving~
Good habits formed at youth make all the difference.~Aristotle~

And you don't have to keep them either. They keep you.~Frank Crane~
In order to change unwanted habits and actions, it is important to take the time to get to know yourself.~Darren L. Johnson~

Book Recommendation: The Power of Habit

A young woman walks into a laboratory. Over the past two years, she has transferred almost every aspect of her life. She has stopped smoking, run a marathon, and been promoted at work. The patterns in her brain, neurologists discover, have fundamentally changed.

Marketers at Proctor & Gamble study videos of people making their beds. They are desperately trying to figure out how to sell a new product called Febreze, which is on track to be one of the biggest flops in company history. Suddenly, one of them detects a nearly imperceptible pattern – and with a slight shift in advertising, Febreze goes on to earn a billion dollars a year.

What do all of these people have in common? They achieved success by focusing on the patterns that shape every aspect of our lives. They succeeded by transforming habits.

In the Power of Habit, award-winning New York Times business reporter Charles Duhigg takes us to the thrilling edge of scientific discoveries that explain why habits exist and how th…

A Fresh Perspective on Problem-Solving

In life, you will be confronted with problems. Your ability to solve problems is a key to the success that you enjoy in life. Problems would be considered any difficulty that prevents you from experiencing what you want to accomplish. Solving problems involve finding ways to overcome obstacles to achieve desired objectives. The more difficult and important the problem, the more helpful and necessary it is to use a flexible framework which can be adapted to suit diverse problems.

In my new book, Success Becomes You Goal Achievement Workbook: Exercises, Self-Tests and WinningStrategies, I outline the five steps that comprise of the DRIVE 5 Advantage process. These are the proactive actions that I implemented to help me build my award-winning leadership career with Marriott hotels, after starting out as a housekeeper AND they empowered me to achieve my breakthrough from the pain and bitterness I experienced as a result of the unexpected death of my fourteen-year old son, Blease.

When th…

For Mom, with Gratitude

In the month of May, we celebrate one of the most popular holidays on the calendar, Mother’s Day. It is the day in which millions of people honor the vessel in which God used to usher in our life. As children, we identify our parents in their roles and hardly ever consider that before we came along, before there were any children, our parents, like many of us had dreams and aspirations of their own. As children, we grew up focused so much on what our mother's may or may have not done right, instead of focusing on what she did do right. A perspective of your mother in which your focus is directed towards more of what she did do right and what she did do well considering her circumstances can empower you beyond your imagination.

For example, when my mother died in 1975, I was thirteen-years old. At a time in which I had many questions about life, I had to experience the world without the sage advice of the one who was used to give birth to my life. The first year after my mother’s …